Saturday, June 18, 2005

This definitely qualifies as an abuse of the English language...

Things like this make my brain hurt:

Ouch. I don't know how I'll recover from it. :P

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Worship night / Sammy J. Peppers

Eric surprised me in the middle of dinner, but we were underway in ten minutes. The worship night was okay, but I didn't know a lot of the songs. Oh well, I knew I'd be fine as long as I was with Eric and my other friends. I met Becky's brother Sam and talked to Becky for a bit, saw Dawn's brother Geoffrey (he's so tall now!), recognized Jane and talked to her for a bit, and caught up with a bunch of my other friends afterwards. Emily and Melia had to go home afterwards to work on Awana stuff (the last day tomorrow!), Silvester was a bit down, Jackie was hyper as usual, and Nathan was still sick! Phil introduced us to a funny black guy named Alpha... the last person I'd met with that decidedly uncommon name was a Chinese person. Certain Chinese people aren't known for their naming skills, and neither are certain other ethnic groups... but this Alpha restored some of the good faith I had, haha. Danielle told me that Nathan wanted to be Citrus' lover now... Citrus can't get enough of his gay lovers, unfortunately. :( (and she thought it was over when Sean and Adela broke up!) Nathan was also saying how he was God's messenger regarding Danielle and Citrus' relationship: he was the one who set them up as his counselling project, hahaha.

Alpha, Phil, Jackie, Silvester, Joe, Vanessa, Vania, Chalaine, Sheena, Eric, and I all went to Sammy J. Peppers afterwards to eat. Phil told us a story about how he and Alpha went to the Olive Garden in Langley, and Alpha pretended they were gay! The waitress knew they were Christians, though... phew! We talked about music, Britney Spears, pregnancy and kids aging you, what we'd been up to, work, and other things. It was a good time out for sure! (even if Eric DID use the Parisienne fart lever against me, haha)

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Friday, June 17, 2005

Steph's interview, presents, beer

My brother and I just got off the phone with the family, who get back at 9:45 PM tomorrow. They tell me that they got me "the gift of the year" which has to do with what they think is my favorite activity to do in public. I don't think I wanna know about it at all... o_O

My sister also has an interview with some forensic science place in Toronto on Monday. So she'll have to fly back on Sunday after the wedding if HMY doesn't change the flight on her! I know she really wants to make this wedding, though!

Oh yeah, Jon and I finished the beer. It was pretty good. :D

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Flying dream / Wedding banquets / Rap Lyrics Translated / Friday Five on bedtime / Quizzes

I had a dream in which I was flying around a slightly bigger version of Laura Secord (a local elementary school) with my friend Chris H. and his friend Mike. Very weird.

I'm definitely looking forward to Anita and Jeff's wedding / banquet next week! It's going to be very cool to see my good friends marrying each other. Thank goodness I have no other weddings to go to on that date, or any other alternatives: I'd have to set Anita and Jeff as the #1 priority! (example: "I can't go to your party, since that wedding is very important to me.")

So yes. Anita and Jeff's wedding trumps Jasmine and Dave's party by FAR. Mwahahaha! :D

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Friday Five

1. What do you wear to bed? Nightgown.

2. What side of the bed do you sleep on? I get it all to myself. :D

3. Do you sleep with a stuffed animal? Yay for stuffed animals! (a green rabbit, in this case)

4. Blanket / bed hog? I have a feeling I could be one, yeah. ;)

5. Do you make your bed everyday? Nah, why bother if I'm the only one in it?

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KQ's birthday presents / Limburg beer / tomorrow's plans / Seven Sins Survey / Sex Facts

Kai Qing finally got my birthday presents that I sent her ages ago: I'm glad she likes them! Postcards from Vancouver, the Outlander book, Matchbox Twenty's Mad Season, Train's Drops of Jupiter, a card, butterfly stickers... she's got my Alaska postcard too! :D

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Jon and I had better finish that bottle of Christoffels Robertus beer in the fridge before our parents get home on Saturday morning. It's a limited edition, 6% alcohol, a product of Limburg, and double malted. Should taste good, but then I'm an alcohol whore. ;)

It's likely that I'll go to the praise rally tomorrow in Richmond... it sounds better than the planned program of Bible Study. Yes, both are very important... but I like worship and will gladly go. Erin's not coming over tomorrow since she has dinner plans with Eunice, Jon's hanging out with Jeremy and will do something else beforehand, and I have no clue what Eric and Emily are doing. After all that, I'll finally go home. I miss home, haha.

Seven Sins Survey


1. Who did you last get angry with? Chris.

2. What is your weapon of choice? A knife or a shotgun.

3. Would you hit a member of the opposite sex? Yes.

4. How about of the same sex? I have done this, and will again.

5. Who was the last person who got really angry at you? Yazmine, I figure.

6. What is your pet peeve? People who deliberately misunderstand me.

7. Do you keep grudges, or can you let things go? Depends.


1. What is one thing you're supposed to do daily that you have not done in a long time? Floss.

2. What is the latest you've ever woken up? 3:30 PM.

3. Name a person you've been meaning to contact, but haven't. Stephen.

4. What is the last lame excuse you made? "I don't feel like going, so I'll just stay home instead."

5. Have you ever watched an infomercial all the way through? Yeah.

6. When was the last time you got a good workout in? Probably the time I walked two-and-a-half miles in a day.

7. How many times did you hit the snooze button on your alarm clock today? No alarm clock needed today. Haha.


1. What is your overpriced yuppie beverage of choice? Does beer count? If not, Starbucks coffee.

2. Do you eat the skin off chicken? Yes.

3. Have you ever used a professional diet company? I wouldn't say so...

4. Do you have an issue with your weight? Yup.

5. Do you prefer sweets, salty foods, or spicy foods? Spicy.

6. Have you ever looked at a small house pet or child and thought, lunch? Ew, no.


1. How many people have you seen naked (not counting movies / family)? 2.

2. How many people have seen YOU naked (not counting physicians / family)? 2.

3. Have you ever caught yourself staring at the chest / crotch of the opposite sex during a normal conversation? Um, yes.

4. What is your favorite body part on the opposite sex? Hands.

5. Have you ever been propositioned by a prostitute? No.

6. Have you ever had to get tested for an STD or pregnancy? No.


1. How many credit cards do you own? None.

2. What's your guilty pleasure store? The snack section of Save-On-Foods.

3. If you had $1 million, what would you do with it? Buy a ticket to a European destination, buy a new TV / stereo system / house, buy stuff for my friends / family...

4. Would you rather be rich or famous? Rich.

5. Would you accept a boring job if it meant you would make megabucks? Probably!

6. Have you ever stolen anything? Yes.

7. How many MP3s are on your hard drive? I don't know... too many on this one to count, haha.


1. What one thing have you done that you're most proud of? No idea.

2. What one thing have you done that your parents are most proud of? I actually don't know if they're proud of me for anything....

3. What thing would you like to accomplish in your life? Find true love, haha. As if.

4. Do you get annoyed by coming in second place? It depends.

5. Have you ever entered a contest of skill, knowing you were of much higher skill? No.

6. Have you ever cheated on something to get a higher score? Yes.

7. What did you do today that you're proud of? Folded the laundry, yay! Haha.


1. What item of your friends would you most want to have for your own? Whoever has the biggest house with the most toys to play with!

2. Who would you want to go on Trading Spaces with? Palmer.. he DEFINITELY needs the help!

3. If you could be anyone else in the world, who would you be? Alanis Morissette.

4. Have you ever been cheated on? Not that I know of.

5. Have you ever wished you had a physical feature different from your own? Yes.

6. What inborn trait do you see in others that you wish you had for yourself? Non-fear of escalators, and self-confidence.

7. Do you wish you'd come up with this survey? Nah... I answer 'em, I don't make 'em. :P

Just came across these sex facts in a community for useless facts... enjoy! (found in Cosmopolitan magazine, and researched on Wikipedia)

•About 1% of women are allergic to semen. Within minutes to hours of a man's ejaculation, they develop swelling and itching wherever their skin made contact with the stuff.

•A recent study found that 1 out of 100 people consider themselves asexual.

•Two percent of women are turned on all the time. They suffer from persistent sexual arousal syndrome, which causes them to orgasm 10 to 100s of times a day.
[This reminds me of one night on Loveline when a woman who had this called in, and Adam was imagining her at a drive-through getting food.]

•Guys in their teens and twenties can get off up to ten times a day, due to high levels of testosterone which keep their libidos raging.

•The more a man orgasms, the less ejaculate his body produces. So if it's been a day since his last orgasm, he could release up to a tablespoon of fluid. But if it's only been hours, he's likely to trickle out much less.

•Women who eat chocolate every day have a greater desire for sex and more satisfying experiences between the sheets, ACCORDING TO AN ITALIAN STUDY.

•If a woman's G-spot is aroused, the usually pea-sized passion button can grow to the size of a walnut. [Yes!]

•Being in a relationship increases a guy's urge to masturbate. That's because having regular sex amps up testosterone production, making him even hornier than he would be without his partner.

•Cornflakes and graham crackers were created to "cure" dirty thoughts. Back in the 1800s, a high sex drive was thought to be caused by spicy foods. To make a bland diet more appealing, new food products were invented--like the cereal and snack we still eat today.

•Among the Etoro people of Papua New Guinea, it is believed that young boys must fellate their elders and ingest their sperm to achieve proper sexual maturation.
Sources: Irwin Goldstein, MD, director of Center for Sexual Medicine; sexologist Sander Gardos, PhD, founder of; Michael Werner, MD, medical director of the Medical Center for Female Sexuality; Bat Sheva Marcus, clinical director of the Medical Center for Female Sexuality

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Thursday, June 16, 2005

New Text Twist high score / Emily over / RIP, Scott Young / Dinner / Music DVD and prank call CD

I have a new Text Twist high score: 314,720. I'd have a screenshot, but I accidentally navigated out of the window... aiyoh!

Emily's over for a little bit before she goes back to her friend's. We'll see what happens tomorrow with Fellowship and everything else. I know I'm going back home afterwards... I haven't slept in my own bed since early last week!

This is a couple of days late, but Scott Young died on Sunday. (June 12) No, I don't mean the AC/DC dudes' brother or the Dallas Stars player (or even the Brisbane rugby union referee)... I mean Neil Young's father, who was a journalist and writer. :P Rest in peace, Scott... you'll be missed.

Don't know what I'll do for dinner... I'll make sure DQ is actually open, perhaps. :P

Jon does want the music DVD and the prank call CD... I'll give those to him this weekend, and make sure he burns them all to his own CDs before he gives them back. Seems to be the only solution if he wants to play them in both his CD player and the laptop. He only wants some of the prank calls, but I figure he can pick and choose what to listen to... he's an adult with some discernment. :P

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"Did you give the laptop a virus because you had to restart it?" / Beery shirts / Quizzes

I emailed my sister to ask what the password was to get into her laptop. She replied, and let's just say we wouldn't have thought of the password at all. From her email: "I told Mom that you had to restart my laptop, and she thought you gave it a virus! Hoho!" *laughs and sighs at mom*

(I can imagine what would happen if we tried doing it when Mom was home: she'd say we caused damage to the computer, and warn us never to use them at home anymore! *thud* )

Also, my shirt smells like beer. That's all for now.

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Beer runs, movie marathon, Em finally arriving, laptop help

Much beer / pizza / caramels / samovar tea / fun was had while Phil, Jon, Eric, Dawn, Jen, Nathan, and I watched movies and helped with various laptops. The movies were interesting and need at least another viewing to figure out what's going on. We aren't alcoholics since we have discernment about what we drink: no mouthwash or rice wine for us! Emily finally called us to say that she'd arrived, and would be staying with a friend instead. That was cool with me and Jon. Steph replied to my email and told us where her laptop battery is... now Jon's just trying to figure out her password to actually get into the computer. Her hint doesn't tell us much at all... thanks, Steph. :P Maybe I should have asked her what the password was, haha.

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Wednesday, June 15, 2005

Emails, Tropika, the New Yorker, Viva Java, and weird music reminiscent of Corey's gifts to me

My brother and I just got back from eating lunch at Tropika. The Malaysian cuisine there is quite good: hot and sour soup, lamb curry in noodle soup, prawns, and a lot of other stuff... menu link. We read the New Yorker magazines that he'd borrowed from the library.

Just before we left, Jon emailed Emily... he asked her to call his cellphone. We're kinda wondering where she is at this point, although what happened isn't really our fault. (hey, my brother said so too! :P) Just now, I emailed my sister... I asked her how to open her laptop battery case thing. It shouldn't take us more than two days to figure out, yet it has. =/

For our listening pleasure on our way to Viva Java, Jon brought out a purple mix CD. It had a track list with the Sex Pistols / Suicidal Tendencies / Richard Hell and the Voidoids / X-Ray Spex / Dead Kennedys / Flipper / the Buzzcocks on it. That reminded me of Corey's music DVD and Corey's prank call CD, so I told Jon about it. (his reaction: "GWAR is best in small doses, and Corey listens to anti-social music!") I'm not sure if the car can play DVDs of music, but I'll lend him the DVD and CD to burn, if he likes.

Next up for today: hanging out with Jon's friend, and the Wong Kar-Wai movie marathon at Nathan's while Jen's computer reformats.

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Confusing flight times... oh, the ambiguity!

My brother got home at 12:40 AM last night (technically early this morning), and asked if Emily had called yet. No, she hadn't. So we waited up till about 2:30 AM, calling her cell phone / checking the airport website / telling Sean what was going on when he called Jon's cell at 1:30 to see if he'd like to go eat somewhere.

We thought that she'd at least call us to say that she was in Surrey with Melody if she couldn't get ahold of me after she picked up her luggage. Then my brother thought that perhaps she meant 12:17 AM today (technically Thursday) when she told me her flight number and scheduled arrival time. I told him that I'd look it up in the morning. Lo and behold, there IS a flight coming in from Toronto at 12:17 AM later on! I hope that's what she means, even if Jon says it'll screw up the plans for a Wong Gar-Wai movie marathon at Nathan's later on while the computer experts reformat Jen's computer! I'll tell him that later when he wakes up. Too confusing and ambiguous.... *head spins*

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Tuesday, June 14, 2005

Emily and Sleep, My Demon Name

I could go to sleep right now, except Emily arrives in about an hour. Then Jon and I have to figure out whether she just wants to sleep, or go eat, or whatever. She'll call him when she's picked up her luggage. I could take a nap, but then I'd be so screwed for the rest of the night. :P

I'll play online games in an effort to stay awake. :D

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Worship music / Mom leaving her kid in basement / Quizzes

Ah, there's nothing like sitting at home alone and listening to uplifting worship music. :D

I should get myself some of that sometime.

On another note: WHO COULD DO THIS?!

That mother was SO annoying!

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Chris fails to realize something, once again! / To-Do List

This is venting about Chris Sykes.

I read this in his journal earlier, and I was very confused:

We were talking earlier this afternoon, and it came up that I was doing other things since she wasn't putting much into the conversation which led to me doing other things so this wouldn't bother me. She took this as she was boring me, which I couldn't exactly get out of.

Uh... he doesn't exactly put much effort into conversations either!

Sample of a typical conversation between Chris and me:

Chris: Hi.
Chris, after 30 seconds to 3 minutes: ?
Me, taking my own sweet time: Hi. [I have other things to do too, y'know!]
Chris: How's it going?
Me: Good.
Chris: Good deal.
*silence for at least twenty minutes*
Chris: I'm going out to walk my dog. I'll be back later.
Me: Okay.
*silence for an hour*
Chris: I'm back. What's up?
Me: Not much.
*silence for upwards of an hour*
Chris: k

That might seem that I don't put much effort into conversations myself, but he wouldn't be that responsive anyhow. I do have independent confirmation of this too, by the way. Those of you who have me added to your IM lists know that I usually am as talkative as a chirping cheery bird! (as Kelvin once described it) I can get even more chummy if I know you well enough / trust you to a high degree. (like Corey) Those conversations can just get... bleh. No other word to describe 'em. To be fair, sometimes there are good ones scattered amongst the dross... but those are few and far between. Thank goodness I'm not really on AIM or Yahoo this week! (turning on AIM Express because I need to talk to Corey does not count! :P)

Other things to do today:

* clean up Steph's room if Em is sleeping over tonight (Jon doesn't care if she does, but as long as we respect Mom's wishes and have her out of here by Friday night!)
* eat the strawberries my brother just picked this afternoon
* make sure Jon gets home by midnight in case Emily calls
* soak up more of the chilling vibe around here ;)

No progress on the laptop front, either. We've kinda figured out where the battery might be, but haven't managed to do anything about it. =/

I'd go out for dinner, but I just had some beef ramen for lunch. (yes, at this time! :P) Maybe later or not at all, since I'm ostensibly saving money here.

Oh yeah, and I dislike the parental controls on my dad's computer which won't let me edit certain entries. Sigh. Maybe Em and I need to go to my place sooner than I think, haha. ;)

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Chianti's, Howl's Moving Castle, and Lemony Snicket

Earlier, Jon and I went to pick up Nathan for a Chianti's dinner. We hung out at Nathan's before we left, and tried convincing various people to join us. Danielle had already eaten and needed to prepare for something (and didn't have a vomitorium like the ancient Romans did at their orgies :P), one of Nathan's friends just wasn't up to it, and Palmer wasn't up to being spontaneous in the end. :P (He said he would have gone had I asked him earlier, but maybe it was a good thing he didn't. We got up to some personal discussions at the restaurant, and some weird jokes in the car!)

At Chianti's, we noticed that the sign advertising their $6.99 Monday / Tuesday pasta special wasn't up. That just about gave Nathan a heart attack, and he joked that the tip was going down just for that. It just worsened his cough, but we were kinda disappointed. Luckily, we asked the waitress about it: the price had gone up a dollar, but they were kinda lazy about changing the signage... yes, of course the tip went right back up! We read newspapers at the table; as Nathan said the last time we were there, "We're such good friends, it doesn't matter if we read newspapers at the table instead of talking to each other!" Too true!

I broke the whole-wheat pasta ordering pattern, but got to try some anyhow when Nathan was too full to finish his. We talked about girls, leading people on, Nathan's sisterhood, a durian-themed wedding banquet, "Raw Dog" tunes, Mike Tyson retiring, sports in general, inviting people who lived too far away to come join us, decoys, teasing, necrophilia, Jen's computer reformat / movie night on Wednesday, Summit, hanging out with Chinese Eric, and other topics. I told Nathan that it probably wasn't a good idea to tease Danielle about certain things since she was sensitive about them. He'd heard it from Danielle already, since she's one of his closest female friends. But I just had to reinforce it before we sang worship songs in the car on the way to the movie. :P

After dinner, it was off to Tinseltown to watch Howl's Moving Castle. It's a very cute and touching anime movie involving someone under a spell who falls in love with a wizard. You should all watch it, since it IS in English. We got into the story right away, and loved the previews before the movie. (Chicken Little, Zathura, Charlie and the Chocolate Factory...) I'm not going to spoil the movie for you, but we stayed until the very end of the credits. After that, it was off to Blockbuster to return some late videos.

On the way to Nathan's, we joked about our sexuality and being bisexual players. Nathan said that since it was a perfect date movie, my brother and I could be his dates! Jon didn't get it at first, so I simplified matters by telling him that we were like Nathan's one-night stand. He didn't want to be tossed aside like useless rubbish, but Nathan made a beautiful recovery by saying that we could use him as that too. That worked for us, haha! Jon commented that he'd seen Nate every day since Friday... I wish I saw some of my good friends that much, haha. At Nathan's, I read the whole fourth book in the Lemony Snicket series while Jon checked stuff out on the computer... Nathan was talking to his parents, and watching Chinese TV shows.

Jon and I left for home, and discussed where Emily was going to stay. Probably she'll stay with me for a few days, then go to Melody's. Yes, my place is reasonably clean! In Jon's words, "It doesn't matter if Em's a neat freak... your place is still a hellhole!" Discretion and loyalty prevented me from describing the current living conditions of someone I knew, haha. ;) Heck, we're such good friends with Nathan that we even joked about showering and body odor in front of him! I explained to Nathan that we joked about that sort of thing, and his comment was "Lovely!" Haha, good times indeed. :D

I also need to talk to someone about something, but that can wait till later. Right now, I need to quickly check my friends pages and then get some sleep! (the email comments will still be there tomorrow :P)

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Monday, June 13, 2005

Emily, Jon, Nate, Eric, Phil, and me (Tropika, movie plans, flight schedule) / Michael Jackson

Just got up from a nap, and my brother got back from the Chapters book sale.

Mississauga Emily finally called us earlier this afternoon! Her flight lands at 12:17 AM on Wednesday (basically really late on Tuesday :P), and she'll call us when she's done picking up her luggage. Jon will give her another call eventually, of course. She'll stay half the time with me, and probably half the time with Melody in Surrey. That doesn't sound too bad... I'll have to give her my keys, which will effectively leave me bound to the four walls of the apartment. Ah well, as long as things go all right. :D

Nate and Jon are planning to see Crash (the 2004 version); Eric and Phil are planning to see Star Wars. I can take my pick, and then I guess all five of us will hang out later tonight. Jon and I might go to Tropika tomorrow night... Mom left us a coupon for it, so we're being frugal, haha. Malaysian food is good, after all. Dunno if we'll use the fast food / Mac's / A&W coupons, though...

Wait. Maybe tonight won't go as planned. Jon just got off the phone with Phil, who's sick. (he did tell me on Friday that he thought he might be getting a cold, and I guess that came true... poor guy!) Now Jon's on the phone with Eric (who answers his cell at work), trying to see what else is going on. Good strategy, heh. I'll probably take a shower anyway, whether I hang out or not!

The Internet guy couldn't fix my mother's computer... it seems to be fine other than the screen not responding when we turn it on. (but then, it's been weird for a while too..) He said that maybe if we asked a friend (Eric?) to take a look at the tower / monitor first, it would be cheaper than taking it to the shop. I still haven't made any progress on figuring out where Steph's laptop battery could be... Jon doesn't know where it is, either. Currently, the laptop is sitting with all its wires out on Steph's desk. I thought briefly of getting the Internet guy to do something with it, but then it had nothing to do with his specialty: the connection. Oh well. It's not an emergency to call Toronto in a panic about. I'll wait till my mom calls again.. because she WILL. ;)

I finished the Dan Savage book about his adopted kid today, too. Very good book. :D

Me: "Hey Jon, did you hear about Michael Jackson?"
My brother: "Yeah, it's not going to help his record sales!"

So true. Not saying whether I thought he was guilty or innocent. But he DID have a metric buttload of money and influence... o_O


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Kody's email about LoveInAction / Living Waters

My friend Kody just emailed me, and this entry is mainly for my own reference.

(I remember Lillian's Sexuality Sunday School class.. Neil from Living Waters came in and spoke about ex-gays, which was quite interesting!)

I've seen the website in the past two days myself. The blog can't be accessed under my dad's parental controls on the computer... oh well. Maybe later, if I figure out how to get Steph's laptop properly restarted!


I recently ran across the website of an organization called Love In Action, at LiA is a fundamentalist-run "camp" for young people which seeks to "correct" homosexual orientation. I've attached the camp's rulebook, which is pretty much a how-to manual on brainwashing and emotional abuse.
<-- This is the weblog of a 16 year-old boy from Tennessee named Zach, who is being forced into the program against his will. The blog speaks for itself. A good number of people have been protesting in person, but since we can't do that, I am asking all of you to take a moment out to place a phone call, write a letter, or send an email to Love in Action to let them know that there are people who support Zach and everyone else who is being victimized by this program. Also, please pass this along to everybody you can think of. The more attention that can be brought to this, the more chance there is of something being done to help these kids. Thanks to all of you for your time. Kody Still

I'm not saying one way or the other where I stand on this issue. :P


Refuge Program Rules

Exceptions to program rules will be granted by C.O.C. (Chain of Command) only.


One of the core functions of the Refuge is the common pursuit of corporate sobriety from sin. The program strives to perpetuate a safe environment that is ripe for growth and for hearing from God. The sobriety of each individual is a key focus.

Galatians 5:19 - 21: 19 Now the works of the flesh are obvious, which are: adultery, sexual immorality, uncleanness, lustfulness, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hatred, strife, jealousies, outbursts of anger, rivalries, divisions, heresies, 21 envying, murders, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these; of which I forewarn you, even as I also forewarned you, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

1 Corinthians 6:12-15: 12 "All things are lawful for me," but not all things are expedient. "All things are lawful for me," but I will not be brought under the power of anything. 13 "Foods for the belly, and the belly for foods," but God will bring to nothing both it and them. But the body is not for sexual immorality, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body. 14 Now God raised up the Lord, and will also raise us up by his power. 15 Don't you know that your bodies are members of Christ? Will I then take away the members of Christ, and make them members of a prostitute? Certainly not!

1 Corinthians 6:18 Flee sexual immorality. "Every sin that a man does is outside the body," but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.

1 Thessalonians 4:2-5: 2 For you know what charge we gave you through the Lord Jesus. 3 For this is the will of God: your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, 4 that each one of you know how to possess himself of his own vessel in sanctification and honor, 5 not in the passion of lust...

1. No smoking, alcohol, drugs, or inappropriate use of over-the-counter medications. All prescription drugs and over-the-counter medications must be left in the care of a parent or guardian, who will administer them when necessary. Refuge clients may not have prescription or over-the-counter drugs in their possession at any time, exceptions by C.O.C. approval only.

2. No sexual / emotional misconduct. Any temptations, fantasies, or dreams are to be presented to one's staff worker only. Sexual misconduct includes viewing pornography, visiting an adult bookstore, emotional dependency, voyeurism, stalking, masturbation, mutual masturbation, or any form of genital or sexual contact with another person. Sexual temptation, as well as the above, is not to be discussed between clients. This includes MI's (Moral Inventories) written on current sexual struggles or temptations.

3. No hugging or physical touch between clients. Brief handshakes or a brief affirmative hand on a shoulder is allowed (exception is when observed by therapeutic accountability).

4. Clients are to remain within the "safe zone" while in the program. This "zone" is illustrated on a map of the Memphis area in the office. An exception is for clients who reside or are staying outside the safe zone, and commuting to the Love in Action campus.


Small unhealthy habits can either reflect or lead to dysfunctional, life-controlling habits. Attention to the details of daily lifestyle is a pivotal aspect of residential recovery.

Luke 10:27 He answered, "You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your strength, and with all your mind; and your neighbor as yourself."

Luke 16:10 He who is faithful in a very little is faithful also in much. He who is unrighteous in a very little is also unrighteous in much.

1 Corinthians 6:19-20: 19 Or don't you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit which is in you, which you have from God? You are not your own, 20 for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God's.

Psalm 139:13-14: 13 For you formed my inmost being. You knit me together in my mother's womb. 14 I will give thanks to you, For I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful. My soul knows that very well.

1. All clients must maintain appropriate hygiene, including daily showering, use of deodorant, and brushing teeth twice daily.

Men: Men must remove all facial hair seven days weekly, and sideburns must not fall below the top of the ear (the top of the ear is defined as where the ear meets the face below the temple). Clean business-like haircuts must be worn at all times. Hair must be long enough to be pinched between two fingers.

Women: Women must shave legs and underarms at least twice weekly.

All: Only natural hair color is allowed. Hair that is colored, highlighted or streaked, must be dyed back to its original color, or the color must be cut out before entrance into the Refuge program.

2. Attire: General

Modesty is expected. No tight, provocative, or suggestive clothing or spandex may be worn. No provocative or suggestive mannerisms are permitted. Fresh undergarments are to be worn at all times. Boxer shorts of any kind are considered underwear and are not to be worn as outer clothing. All clients must be dressed appropriately in clean, unwrinkled clothes when leaving the house for the day. Men may not wear any jewelry (other than a watch and a wedding band) unless approved through a C.O.C. In addition to a watch and wedding band, women may also wear a pair of simple earrings (one earring per ear.) The clients may not wear Abercrombie and Fitch or Calvin Klein brand clothing, undergarments, or accessories.

Men: Shirts are to be worn at all times, even while sleeping. T-shirts without sleeves are not permitted at any time, whether worn as an outer garment or an undergarment. This includes "muscle shirts" or other tank-tops. Bikini-style underwear is prohibited.

Women: Bras must be worn at all times, except while sleeping. Thong-style underwear is prohibited.

Attire: LIA Campus

In addition to the General Attire above, the following items apply. No torn, ragged, or stained clothing is to be worn at any time while on campus. Monday through Thursday, clients must wear pants, a clean shirt, and shoes or sandals with socks. Jeans and a nice T-shirt are acceptable. On Friday, clients may wear clean, knee-length khaki or denim-style shorts. No athletic or excessively baggy shorts may be worn on campus at any time. No hats, jackets, or overcoats are to be worn on campus.

Women: In addition to these guidelines, women may also wear skirts which fall at or below the knee. Women may wear tank-tops only if they are worn with an over-blouse. Women may wear open-toed shoes or women's dress sandals without socks. Bras must be worn at all times, except while sleeping. Sports bras may only be worn while working out. No sleeveless blouses may be worn. All blouses and T-shirts must fit modestly (not extremely tight).

3. No cologne, perfume, or use of other highly scented hygiene products.

Therapeutic & Staff Issues

A goal of the Source is to be purposeful and strategic in order to help clients pursue growth and transformation. The principles below are common elements of this plan.

Romans 13:1-5: 1 Let every soul be in subjection to the higher authorities, for there is no authority except from God, and those who be are ordained by God. 2 Therefore he who resists the authority, withstands the ordinance of God; and those who withstand will receive to themselves judgment. 3 For rulers are not a terror to the good work, but to the evil. Do you desire to have no fear of the authority? Do that which is good, and you will have praise from the same, 4 for he is a servant of God to you for good. But if you do that which is evil, be afraid, for he doesn't bear the sword in vain; for he is a minister of God, an avenger for wrath to him who does evil. 5 Therefore you need to be in subjection, not only because of the wrath, but also for conscience's sake.

Hebrews 13:17 Obey those who have the rule over you, and submit to them, for they watch on behalf of your souls, as those who will give account, that they may do this with joy, and not with groaning, for that would be unprofitable for you.



3. All clients are expected to memorize the Program Expectations as they summarize the spirit and heart of the rules of Love in Action.

4. All Refuge program members must complete four MI's (Moral Inventories) per week unless otherwise instructed. Detailed instruction on writing MI's will be provided within the first few days of beginning the program.

5. Refuge clients will be prepared to give an Introduction ("Intro") at every Intro Rap. Detailed instruction on giving an intro will be provided within the first few days of the program.

6. To make special requests of the staff or inform the staff of something (e.g. asking permission to leave the safe zone for some reason, informing the staff of a breach in program rules, etc.), Refuge clients must communicate appropriately. This means filling out a Chain of Command (C.O.C.) form. All C.O.C.'s must be signed by the Refuge client's parent or guardian before being submitted to a staff member, or the C.O.C. will be returned with no answer. All C.O.C.'s must be concise, and not "story tell" or "whine." Such will be returned with no reply.

7. No continuing education while in the program. Home-school Refuge clients may be allowed to continue their studies during the program, pending approval by LIA staff.

6. Refuge clients and their parents / guardians are required to attend Love in Action's host church, Germantown Baptist Church, on Sunday mornings. More information about GBC can be found online at

7. Parents and guardians are expected to attend the Friends and Family support group on Thursday nights from 7:00 PM to 8:30 PM, held at the Love in Action campus. Refuge clients will be supervised during this time by a Love in Action staff member.

8. Refuge clients and their parents / guardians are expected to attend Love in Action's Open Meetings whenever they occur, held on the first Tuesday of every month at Kirby Woods Baptist Church at 7:30 PM.

9. Refuge clients are expected to maintain a committed pursuit of a positive and thankful attitude.

10. Absolutely no journaling or keeping a diary outside of the MI process unless directed or approved by staff.

11. Absolutely no calling staff outside business hours unless it is an emotional / therapeutic / physical emergency, or unless prior permission from staff has been obtained.

12. Additional (i.e. beyond one per week) one-on-one counseling sessions will be granted by C.O.C. appointment only.

False Image (FI) Concerns

Through the Source, God renews clients' minds and lives, helping them to put off the old self and put on the new. False images are items or behaviors that are of the old self.

Proverbs 8:6-8: 6 Hear, for I will speak excellent things. The opening of my lips is for right things. 7 For my mouth speaks truth. Wickedness is an abomination to my lips. 8 All the words of my mouth are in righteousness. There is nothing crooked or perverse in them.

Ephesians 4:17-25: 17 This I say therefore, and testify in the Lord, that you no longer walk as the rest of the Gentiles also walk, in the futility of their mind, 18 being darkened in their understanding, alienated from the life of God, because of the ignorance that is in them, because of the hardening of their hearts; 19 who having become callous gave themselves up to lust, to work all uncleanness with greediness. 20 But you did not learn Christ that way; 21 if indeed you heard him, and were taught in him, even as truth is in Jesus: 22 that you put away, as concerning your former way of life, the old man, that grows corrupt after the lusts of deceit; 23 and that you be renewed in the spirit of your mind, 24 and put on the new man, that like God has been created in righteousness and holiness of truth. 25 Therefore, putting away falsehood, speak truth each one with his neighbor. For we are members one of another.

1. LIA wants to encourage each client, male and female, by affirming his / her gender identity. LIA also wants each client to pursue integrity in all of his / her actions and appearances. Therefore, any belongings, appearances, clothing, actions, or humor that might connect a client to an inappropriate past are excluded from the program. These hindrances are called False Images (FI's). FI behavior may include hyper-masculinity, seductive clothing, mannish / boyish attire (on women), excessive jewelry (on men), mascoting, and "campy" or gay / lesbian behavior and talk.

2. As non-residential clients, Refuge participants must submit to an F.I. search every morning. With the exception of the very first program day, when they may arrive no later than 9:00 AM, Refuge clients will arrive daily at the Love in Action campus no later than 8:50 AM, waiting in a designated area until a staff member meets them to perform the F.I. search and check them in. Refuge clients may not enter any of the client spaces on campus before submitting to an F.I. search. All belongings brought to campus will be searched, including book bags, notebooks, wallets, handbags, purses, etc. Items that violate the F.I. policy or the dress code will be held for the client, to be returned no later than the client's last day in program. Clients may request to have their F.I. items returned by filling out a C.O.C.

3. All photographs will be taken for the purpose of sobering re-evaluation. Clients may request to have pictures returned to them via C.O.C.

4. Refuge clients will not be allowed to use personally owned computers during the program, whether on campus or at home / in temporary lodging. Computer stations are normally available on campus when clients need to type something.

5. Clients should report all FI's (with discretion), whether their own or another's, to staff.

Campus Rules

LIA honors clients' confidentiality and time. A campus structure has been established that will ensure a fair and balanced approach to every client.

1 Corinthians 14:40 Let all things be done decently and in order.

1. No visiting or entering staff offices unless prior permission is given.

2. While on the LIA campus, Refuge clients must be in phase at all times, whether indoors or out of doors. A client is "in phase" when he or she is with two or more other clients (whether Refuge or residential), one of whom must have been in the program for at least eight weeks. Exceptions to phase rules will be granted by C.O.C. request only.

3. Further campus rules which are still being developed and revised will be communicated to Refuge clients on their arrival.

Relationship Issues

Emotional dependency and inappropriate sexual behaviors have their roots in unresolved relationship issues, as well as poor personal or relational boundaries. As a key part to his / her recovery, each client's program will focus significant attention on resolving relationship concerns and cultivating healthy relationships, both within and outside of the program.

Psalm 133:1-3: 1 See how good and how pleasant it is for brothers to live together in unity! 2 It is like the precious oil on the head, That ran down on the beard, Even Aaron's beard; That came down on the edge of his robes; 3 Like the dew of Hermon, That comes down on the hills of Zion: For there Yahweh gives the blessing, Even life forevermore.

Romans 15:5-6: 5 Now the God of patience and of comfort grant you to be of the same mind one with another according to Christ Jesus, 6 that with one accord you may with one mouth glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.

John 17:22 The glory which you have given me, I have given to them; that they may be one, even as we are one.

Ephesians 4:1-3: 1 I therefore, the prisoner in the Lord, beg you to walk worthily of the calling with which you were called, 2 with all lowliness and humility, with long suffering, bearing with one another in love; 3 being eager to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.

1. No physical violence or physically threatening dialogue. Violation of this rule warrants immediate dismissal from the program.

2. No breaching another person's confidentiality to anyone outside the program.

3. No talking behind another person's back (TBB).

4. The 24-hour rule is to be used after challenging another client who is in breach of the program rules. If one notices that another client's inappropriate behavior continues, the client should be challenged to report to staff. If in 24 hours, he / she has not done so, one is required to report the breach to staff via C.O.C. or verbal communication.

5. Due to the nature of many gender identity struggles, issues of enmeshment and emotional dependency can develop not only with same sex, but sometimes even more easily with the opposite sex. Because healthy and appropriate same and opposite-sex relationships are encouraged, dating and exclusive relationships of any kind are prohibited while in the program.

6. Clients may have no contact with anyone who has left the program prior to graduating without the blessing of the staff to do so. Clients may address off-limit persons they inadvertently encounter with a polite "hello" only.

7. While in the program, clients may have no contact with anyone involved in unrepentant emotional dependencies, inappropriate sexual behaviors, or chemical dependencies. This includes any contact with friends struggling with dependency issues or inappropriate sexual behavior that was known about prior to entering the program. If such a person is encountered, the client must make his / her staff worker aware of this.

8. Refuge clients and their parents / guardians will be participating in off-campus events and meetings where non-program strugglers are in attendance. To encourage the safety of all involved, clients are required to be in phase when communicating with non-program strugglers at these meetings, and will be prohibited from establishing contact with them outside of the these meetings.

Safekeeping Rules

1. All new Refuge clients will be placed into Safekeeping for the initial two to three days of their program. A client on safekeeping may not communicate verbally, or by using hand gestures or eye contact with any other clients or staff members or his / her parents or guardians. In case of a practical need, Safekeeping clients may write down their question or request and show it to another client, staff member, or their parent or guardian. Writing may only be used when absolutely necessary. Parents and guardians must enforce their child's safekeeping status at home or in their temporary lodging.

2. Refuge clients may C.O.C. to be removed from Safekeeping status. Safekeeping clients will be removed from Safekeeping at their staff worker's discretion.

3. Any client may be placed into Safekeeping at any time, at a staff worker's discretion.

4. Safekeeping clients are permitted to say "hello" and to communicate enough information to be courteous in public interaction (mostly in the clients' church setting).

5. Safekeeping clients are required to spend a minimum of two hours (in one sitting) a day alone in their room (note: by "alone," it is understood that parents or guardians can be in the room, but are not to interact or disrupt the alone time of the safekeeping client). During the alone time, Safekeeping clients may work on their treatment plans, read program materials or the Bible, pray, or work on other assignments from their staff workers.

6. In the evenings, all Refuge Safekeeping clients must remain at home or at their temporary lodging with their parent or guardian (i.e. no going out to eat, to the store, etc. during Safekeeping.)

7. Non-Safekeeping clients are responsible to protect and uphold the Safekeeping parameters of the Safekeeping clients.

Rules for the Home / Temporary Lodging

Hebrews 6:11-12: 11 We desire that each one of you may show the same diligence to the fullness of hope even to the end, 12 that you won't be sluggish, but imitators of those who through faith and patience inherited the promises.

Ephesians 4:22-24: 22 that you put away, as concerning your former way of life, the old man, that grows corrupt after the lusts of deceit; 23 and that you be renewed in the spirit of your mind, 24 and put on the new man, that like God has been created in righteousness and holiness of truth.

Refuge encourages all clients to first focus internally. Why is the client here? What is broken? What is the core motivation of the client's unhealthy behavior? Staff members will work with clients as they learn what is wrong and as they take the steps to articulate it. Second, staff emphasize the need for each client to seek the truth of God. What does He have to say about each client and his / her pain? The rules that follow are designed to both protect the client and facilitate his / her wrestling with God.

Colossians 3:9-10: 9 Don't lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old man with his doings, 10 and have put on the new man, that is being renewed in knowledge after the image of his Creator...

1 Kings 9:4 As for you, if you will walk before me, as David your father walked, in integrity of heart, and in uprightness, to do according to all that I have commanded you, and will keep my statutes and my ordinances...

Psalm 7:8-9: 8 Yahweh administers judgment to the peoples. Judge me, Yahweh, according to my righteousness, And to my integrity that is in me. 9 Oh let the wickedness of the wicked come to an end, But establish the righteous; Their minds and hearts are searched by the righteous God.

Proverbs 10:9 He who walks blamelessly walks surely, But he who perverts his ways will be found out.

Proverbs 11:2-3: 2 When pride comes, then comes shame, But with humility comes wisdom. 3 The integrity of the upright shall guide them, But the perverseness of the treacherous shall destroy them.

Proverbs 13:13 Whoever despises instruction will pay for it, But he who respects a command will be rewarded.

Proverbs 20:7 A righteous man who walks in his integrity, Blessed are his children after him.

Genesis 32:24-28: 24 Jacob was left alone, and wrestled with a man there until the breaking of the day. 25 When he saw that he didn't prevail against him, he touched the hollow of his thigh, and the hollow of Jacob's thigh was strained, as he wrestled. 26 The man said, "Let me go, for the day breaks." Jacob said, "I won't let you go, unless you bless me." 27 He said to him, "What is your name?" He said, "Jacob." 28 He said, "Your name will no longer be called 'Jacob,' but, 'Israel,' for you have fought with God and with men, and have prevailed."

1 Chronicles 29:18 Yahweh, the God of Abraham, of Isaac, and of Israel, our fathers, keep this forever in the imagination of the thoughts of the heart of your people, and prepare their heart to you...

Isaiah 49:13-15: 13 Sing, heavens; and be joyful, earth; and break forth into singing, mountains: for Yahweh has comforted his people, and will have compassion on his afflicted. 14 But Zion said, Yahweh has forsaken me, and the Lord has forgotten me. 15 Can a woman forget her sucking child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? Yes, these may forget, yet I will not forget you.

Matthew 9:36 But when he saw the multitudes, he was moved with compassion for them, because they were weary and scattered, as sheep without a shepherd.

Matthew 14:14 Jesus went out, and he saw a great multitude. He had compassion on them, and healed their sick.

Matthew 20:34 Jesus, being moved with compassion, touched their eyes; and immediately their eyes received their sight, and they followed him.

Luke 10:40-42: 40 But Martha was distracted with much serving, and she came up to him, and said, "Lord, don't you care that my sister left me to serve alone? Ask her therefore to help me." 41 Jesus answered her, "Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things, 42 but one thing is needed. Mary has chosen the good part, which will not be taken away from her."

Luke 10:29-30: 29 Jesus said, "Most assuredly I tell you, there is no one who has left house, or brothers, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or land, for my sake, and for the gospel's sake, 30 but he will receive one hundred times now in this time, houses, brothers, sisters, mothers, children, and land, with persecutions; and in the age to come eternal life.

Exodus 20:12 Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land which Yahweh your God gives you.

Malachi 4:6 He will turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the earth with a curse."

1. No discussing therapeutic issues at home. Keep conversations positive.

2. Clients must gain permission through C.O.C. to make or receive phone calls from friends and family members outside the program.

3. No cell phones, beepers, computers, or e-mail / internet access at. Exceptions by C.O.C. approval only.

4. No visitors from out of town without permission via C.O.C.

5. Refuge clients may only read materials approved by staff.

6. No television viewing, going to movies, or reading / watching / listening to secular media of any kind, anywhere within the client's and the parent's / guardian's control. This includes listening to classical or instrumental music that is not expressly Christian (Beethoven, Bach, etc. are not considered Christian). The only exception to the media policy is the weekly movie.

7. Refuge clients may watch one video / DVD per week that has been approved by staff via C.O.C. Movies submitted for approval must be rated G or PG. The parents / guardians are responsible for securing the video / DVD.

8. Weekend curfew (Friday and Saturday) is 10:00 PM. Weekday curfew (Sunday through Thursday) is 9:30 PM.

9. Refuge clients must be with at least one parent or guardian at all times when off-campus.

10. On certain occasions, Refuge clients have the opportunity, with the C.O.C. approval and their parent / guardian's permission, to visit the residential houses of the Source program clients. On these occasions, Refuge clients must be in phase at all times, and must abide by all the house rules and follow instructions given by Source program house managers. House rules will be communicated to Refuge clients as the need arises. Refuge clients are encouraged to ask for clarification if they are unsure about a particular house rule.

11. Refuge clients may not enter any restaurants with bars, even when accompanied by a parent or guardian.

12. Refuge clients must be accompanied by a parent during any trip to a public restroom.

13. No access to malls of any kind.

14. Clients are not allowed to visit any video, music, or media stores that are not expressly Christian, even if accompanied by a parent or guardian. Clients may visit LifeWay Christian stores with a parent or guardian.

15. Refuge clients must report off-campus emergencies, illnesses, or injuries to their parents / guardians as soon as possible. Parents / guardians are required to inform LIA staff members of such situations by phone as soon as possible.

16. Total silence time at home begins at 9:00 PM Sunday through Thursday. Refuge clients may use this time for resting, but are encouraged to make a habit of using it for a nightly quiet time with God.

17. Lights-out time will begin each night at 10:00 PM Sunday through Thursday.

18. Refuge clients are allowed a one-time 15-minute maximum closed bathroom door time for shower / grooming purposes. The only other closed-door alone time allowed is for using the restroom.

19. Refuge clients must keep their bedroom doors open at all times, day or night.

20. Proper bedclothes must be worn during nighttime sleeping hours. Appropriate bedclothes include full pajamas (tops and bottoms) or a pair of non-underwear-type shorts and a T-shirt. Nightgowns are not allowed.

21. Refuge clients are expected to eat dinner with their parents / guardians / other family members (if any) at least four times per week.

22. Refuge clients are expected to cook dinner one time per week.

On-Level Rules

"On-Level" is a protective and therapeutic measure that is sometimes implemented between clients who are having relational difficulties.

1. On-level clients may not speak to each other unless there is a potentially life-threatening emergency.

2. On-level clients are to spend no time alone with each other.

3. On-level clients are not allowed to ride in the same car unless C.O.C. permission has been granted, in which case, one must sit in the front of the car, and one must sit in the back of the car.

4. On-level clients, whenever in the same room, must always have exactly one person between them, whether sitting or standing. Planned activities such as church, Open Meetings, and socials are no exception.

5. On-level status can be initiated by any staff member or house manager.

6. On-level status can be removed only by Executive Staff.

Group Norms

1. Be honest, authentic, and real.

2. Active participation is expected. This includes body language and eye contact. No slouching in chairs, sitting back on chairs hind legs, sitting with arms crossed, rolling eyes, or making disgusting faces.

3. No attacking or demeaning another person's character.

4. Raise hand to speak. Speak one at a time as called on by the facilitator.

5. Maintain strict confidentiality of everything discussed in group. "What is seen here, what is heard here, remains here!"

6. Clients are to sit in such a way as to not cause another to stumble.

7. No food or drink during rap. This includes chewing gum and toothpicks.

8. Appropriate attire is required. No hats, athletic or baggy shorts (for men), or extremely short skirts (for women) are allowed.

9. Say "I love you _____" after each person is finished relating.

10. Be on time!

11. Do not talk at, preach to, or teach one another. Each person should keep the focus on him / herself and how he / she feels.

12. Do not be defensive. While being spoken to, one may not respond to defend him / herself or return confrontation to the person speaking.

13. If one needs to leave the group for any reason, he / she must ask permission from the staff in charge of the group session.

14. Stand when speaking, relating, or being related to. During general raps, one must stand while relating. One must also stand when someone is being given feedback or being related to. Standing is not necessary during teaching raps.

Men / Women Dynamics

The following common courtesies apply to relational dynamics between men and women. While these are not rules and may initially feel a little awkward, they are strongly encouraged as practical guidelines to promote mutual respect and honor. It is LIA's hope that these suggestions will become common practices and help to nurture a value of self and an appreciation for others.

Places of Honor for Women:

Respect for women may be shown by offering them first priority in a number of ways:

1. Please invite women (not just LIA clients) to be the first in line to eat.

2. Encourage women to accept the more comfortable seats in a room. Men should consider offering a woman their chair when there are none left in the room.

3. Men should think about opening doors for women, both when entering a building and when entering a car. This simply adds a level of respect, consideration, and value.

Honoring Both Genders:

Be mindful of the types of humor and communication used around one another. Jesting about bodily functions, discussing gender-specific issues when not in rap sessions (at the LIA office), and other conversation which could potentially be inappropriate to the opposite sex should be avoided.

Program Expectations

Therapeutic & Interpersonal Expectations

1. Clients are expected to affirm one another and edify their personal and corporate pursuit of growth and transformation. This includes a commitment to courageous honesty with respect, a commitment to sobriety in all manners of talk / action / dress, the exercise of prudence, and honoring confidentiality and accountability.

2. Clients are expected to take responsibility for their environment and to inform appropriate authorities of program breaches. This is to be done using the 24-hour rule.

3. Clients are expected to give back. This includes watching out for one's brothers and sisters. It also includes the initiative of upper-phasers to provide accountability for lower-phasers.

4. Clients are expected to maintain a committed pursuit of a positive and thankful attitude.

5. Clients are expected to avoid peer-to-peer physical touch. Brief handshakes or a brief affirmative hand on a shoulder is allowed.

6. Clients are expected to actively identify and subsequently remove all personal and corporate FI's.

7. Clients are expected to avoid therapeutic topics of discussion with House Managers.

8. Clients are expected to make their homework a priority. Phase 1 clients must complete four MI's per week unless otherwise instructed. Phase 2 & Training clients must complete two MI's per week unless otherwise instructed. Phase 1 clients will be prepared to do an Introduction at every Introduction Rap. All clients will be assigned a personalized treatment plan.

9. Clients are expected to plan ahead and communicate appropriately, following Chain of Command (C.O.C.) for any information or communication with staff.

Practical Expectations

1. All clients must maintain integrity in their personal presentation. This includes daily grooming and hygiene maintenance, bed-making, as well as regular bedroom and bathroom cleaning and maintenance.

2. Clients are expected to work either therapeutically or professionally Monday through Friday unless prior permission is granted through C.O.C. Clients who are not working are expected to be in the office.

3. Clients are expected to actively re-evaluate the influences of secular media. Phase 1 clients are restricted from television-viewing, internet access, secular media, or reading of any kind without specific permission. Clients may not enter any non-Christian bookstores. Phase 2 clients may use email and the internet at work for work purposes. Training program clients may listen to secular music. However, they may not listen to secular radio for the first 30 days. No secular music is allowed in residences or when around Phase 1 clients.

4. Clients are expected to honor their home environment by being on-time with cooking responsibilities, attending all weekly house meetings, dinner attendance, curfew, total silence, lights out, and by working cooperatively to complete all stewardships with a positive attitude.

5. Clients are expected to remain accountable with all relationships. No cell phones, phone calls, or contact with anyone outside the program without prior permission. Phase 2 and Training Program clients may make approved relational phone calls.

Refuge Program - Parental Rules (not to be given to client)

1. No discussing therapeutic issues at home. Keep conversations positive.

2. Clients are to be picked up from the LIA office no later than 5:00 PM each weekday.

3. Respect all Love In Action and Refuge rules. If you do not understand them, support the program in front of client at all times and gain clarification from LIA staff. Do not sabotage or defocus your client.

4. Don't allow client to split your family. Unite to present stability and unity.

5. Your client is not allowed to talk to anyone outside of your home including friends or family. Do not tell client who has called for them or who is asking about them. Keep the thoughts of the client focused on his / her treatment.

6. The family needs interactive time together. It is very important that togetherness is the priority during this time. The client does not need extended time alone or with only one family member. The only exception is for Refuge clients who are from out-of-town and staying with a significant guardian while here.

7. Family dinner is encouraged to occur at least four times weekly.

8. The client is expected to cook dinner at least one time weekly.

9. The client is expected to complete a weekly cleaning regimen to your satisfaction.

10. Parents / guardians are asked to make themselves available for any special meetings deemed necessary for the successful treatment of their loved ones.

11. If there is an "Open Meeting" during Refuge Program, parents / guardians are asked to attend to enhance their involvement with Refuge. Open meetings are held the first Tuesday of each month at 7:30pm at Kirby Woods Baptist Church (on the corner of Poplar Ave. and Massey; entrance is located at the ground floor on the east side of building entrance).

Consequences for Rule Violation:

1. Constructive criticism from the group.
2. Ten to thirty-page written paper on rule violation.
3. Program dismissal. This does not need to be addressed with the client (The client may sabotage his / her own program due to purposeful dismissal consequences).
4. Isolation from the group.

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Sunday, June 12, 2005

Disgusting stripper acts, tomorrow's plans, MSN, Gmail / Zodiac Condoms

My brother came home a while ago, and announced: "Aiya! You're disgusting, with your clothes all over the floor like a stripper!" Hahahaha, too bad for him! :P (these are the clothes that I've worn over the last few days :P)

The Internet guy is coming tomorrow to hopefully fix my mom's computer. Eric can only do so much... ;)

After that, I might go see a movie with the guys. It'll be interesting, haha.

I only have MSN running at the moment. That limits the number of people I can talk to, but there's only a few Net people that I enjoy talking to with that. :P

What do you know, I'm finally on a computer where I can check my Gmail if I want... and it won't work! Sigh.

Zodiac Condoms

Now you can pick the condom just right for your sign!


Scorpio condoms outsell all others. That's probably because people try to impress each other with their sexual prowess by pretending that they're a Scorpio. The truth is that no right-thinking Scorpio would get caught dead wearing a condom. But then death doesn't scare a Scorpio. And a Scorpio doesn't get caught. Scorpio condoms come in two editions, basic black and the stealthy invisible model. Both leather and studs are optional. Also, because propriety concerns Scorpio, each package of Scorpio condoms comes with a preprinted, pre-coital agreement. Symbolized by the venomous Scorpion, when you really want to sting your lover, you want a Scorpio condom.


Sagittarians are known for their worldly pursuits, gamesmanship, cosmopolitan attitude, and knack for doing things in a big way. Sagittarian condoms are the sportier models. They come equipped with travel cases. Sagittarian condoms are the ones that go with you and grow with you. They promise a lot and they are extra thick to protect against fluids of a dubious nature. The archer symbolizes Sagittarius. When you want to be on target with Cupid's arrows, you want a Sagittarius condom.


Capricorns are known for their longevity, wisdom, practicality, ambition, and earthy sensuality. Capricorns tend to be on the conservative side. Capricorn condoms are the most durable, having the longest shelf life. Capricorn condoms are extra strong to last extra long. With Capricorn condoms, wing tips / pinstripes / briefcases are optional. Be sure to shake them out from time to time, otherwise they go stale. Capricorn is the sign of the mountain goat. When you're horny enough to climb the mountains of love, you want a Capricorn condom.


Aquarians are gregarious, yet aloof. Aquarius is a high energy sign, and one that is usually politically correct. Aquarian condoms are just a little bit kinky. They come colored hot pink and electric blue... they come with a battery pack to light up in the dark, and French ticklers for extra stimulation. With Aquarius condoms, the packaging features political slogans such as the MiXXe Maxim: "Things can change overnight; it depends upon how late you stay up and with whom doing what." Since Aquarius is a social sign, Aquarian condoms come in multipacks and are detachable to share with your friends. Aquarius is the sign of the water bearer. When your love juices really get to flowing, you want an Aquarius condom.


Pisces are known for their deep feelings that somewhat border on mysticism. Pisces are idealistic, sometimes to the point of ecstatic bliss. Pisces condoms are truly extra sensitive and translucent. Little spikes on the inside are optional. Pisces condoms contain special instructions for erotic fantasy games. Pisces is the sign of the fishes. When it smells like love and you're on a seafood diet, you want a Pisces condom.


Aries is the first sign of the zodiac. Aries are action oriented people. Aries is symbolized by the ram, so naturally Aries condoms are made from the finest lambskin. Because Aries often exhibits a "get up and go" attitude, Aries condoms are steel belted, feature racing stripes, and every fully equipped sports car dispenses them. Onyx packaging is optional for the black sheep. Aries prides themselves on being first and best. Aries condoms are perfect for quickies. When you want what you want when you want it, you want an Aries condom.


Taurus is perhaps the most sensual and economy-minded of the astrological signs. Taurus condoms are made from the most luxurious materials with special models available in silk and velvet. Taurus condoms give you quality at an affordable price, and they're frequently on sale. Taureans may be slow to make their minds, but once they've made a decision, they're almost impossible to stop. When your love is a sure thing, you want a Taurus condom. The bull symbolizes Taurus. Taurus condoms are the ones you want when you're really horny.


Geminis are known for their versatility, intellect, and communication skills. Accordingly, Gemini condoms accommodate a variety of sexual positions and combinations. Gemini condoms are sold in multipacks and come with a special audio chip. Naturally, they're available through mail order. Frequently, Gemini condoms sell two for the price of one. They always come in special pop-up dispensers so that you don't have to work too hard. Gemini is the sign of the twins, and Gemini condoms come in twin packs and are the preferred model for double headers. When you need to do it more than once, you need Gemini condoms.


Cancer is a water sign and as such, is very much interested in safety and tradition. Therefore, Cancer condoms are waterproof and heat treated for hot tubs and natural springs. Cancer condoms make you feel secure. Cancer is also the sign of motherhood. With Cancer condoms, if you decide to become a parent, you can always return the unused portion for a partial refund. Cancer condoms are clingy. Never has history known a time when Cancer condoms were not available. Fine antique specimens grace many collections. Astrologically speaking, Cancer is associated with the breasts. The makers of Cancer condoms are happy to sponsor the annual spring "Breast Worship Rituals." Cancer condoms are freely dispensed to beautiful, large-breasted women. Cancer is symbolized by the crab. When you're not getting enough love and are starting to feel crabby, reach for a Cancer condom.


Leos are known for their passion, pride, and (pro)creative urges. Leos tend to be a bit flashy, showy, and original in and out of bed. Leo condoms come in gold foil packaging with custom monogramming. Leo condoms come in one size: extra, extra large. Leo is symbolized by the lion. When you're ready to meet your mate and make wild jungle noises, you're ready for a Leo condom.


Virgos are fussy and particular. Virgo condoms feature perfection of fit, and they keep you neat and clean. Virgos tend to be environmentally sound consumer types. Naturally, Virgo condoms have the lowest failure rate, the highest performance rating, and come equipped with a detailed, all-purpose instruction manual. Virgo is symbolized by the virgin. When you're ready for some ritualized defloweration activities, you're ready for a Virgo condom.


Libras are suave and eager to please others. Libra condoms are the fancy European models and come in fashionable hand-painted designer packaging. Libra condoms make for an elegant accessory on the best dates. Libra condoms are aesthetically pleasing to both partners. They are reversible and can turn into a diaphragm, thus sharing the responsibilities. Libra is symbolized by the scales. When sex weighs heavily on your mind, you want a Libra condom.

And I hope this clears up any future confusion... :D

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Text Twist / Thinking Style

I think I'll play Text Twist all afternoon now. (257,110 is my high score)

Your Dominant Thinking Style:


Super-logical and rational, you consider every fact available to you.
You don't make rash decisions, and are rarely moved by emotion.

You prefer what's known and proven to the new and untested.
You tend to ground those around you, and add stability.

Your Secondary Thinking Style:


You are very insightful, and tend to make decisions based on your insights.
You focus on how things should be, even if you haven't worked out the details.

An idealist, thinking of the future helps you guide your path.
You tend to give others long-term direction and momentum.

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Pimp's Quest, other online games, BunnyHero Adopted Pets

HAHAHAHAHA! I just found a game called Pimp's Quest!

I hope my mom never finds out about that one! o_O

(Steph, Jon, and Dave: DON'T TELL HER OR I'LL KILL YOU!!!)

I can just see it now... "Are you SURE your Internet friends aren't PRIMPS?!" "No, Mom! They didn't tell me about this game..." (I know better than to say that I found it by myself... she'd probably think I was into who-knows-what! o_O )

I recommend the games in the online games post instead. ;)

I might go out for lunch, too. Gets boring around the house. :P

my pet!

my pet!

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Eric's flat tire and my own ditziness / 99 Rooms

I called Eric today at 8:45, to see if he could drive me to church. Since I thought he was using the phone with Caller ID, I didn't bother to tell him that I wasn't at my place. I really should have, since he didn't pick me up at 9:20 like he said he was going to. At around 10:10, I got a bit panicky and called his place again. Ron said he left some time ago, and had just called to say he had a flat tire. After that, I called Eric's cell. He said that I should have told him where I was calling from (true), and that now he had a flat tire so he wouldn't be able to do anything like go back to pick me up. (he waited at my place for ten minutes... eep!) Oh well, there's nothing I can do about it now. At least I don't have to worry about hanging with the guys while they play Ultimate later on. Not sure how I'd have reacted if I'd been with him when the tire went flat, anyhow. Sigh... I guess I'll see what time my brother gets home today...

99 Rooms <---- interesting Flash game!

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