Spirituality and your marriage

These tips are from The Husband Book: A Guy's Guide To Marriage by Harry Harrison Junior, which I plan to give to my brother for his wedding.

Spirituality

Develop a spiritual program. There will be times when it carries your marriage.

Make a tithe commitment to God... whether it's to a church, a charity, or something else.

Pray nightly with her.

Pray daily for her.

Be able to turn her life, her wants, and her fears over to God.

Ask her for help.

Realize she has her own beliefs. Let her be.

Be honest.

Read a devotional every day, TOGETHER.

Remember, a loving marriage is something alive. You have to nourish it daily.

Whatever you look for in her, you'll find.

Accept the fact that you can't please her all the time, you can't make her happy all the time, and you can't have all the right answers all the time. You can just love her all the time.

Talk to her about God, your faith, and what you believe. She needs to hear this.

Sit outside with her and watch a sunset.

Go on a spiritual retreat. Make conscious contact with God.

Talk to her about the events and people that have shaped your life.

Keep no secrets.

Call her every night you're away from home, even if you're on the other side of the world.

Remind her of her successes, intelligence, and accomplishments.

Every morning, thank God for the myriad of ways she's changed your life. For instance, most men would be wearing double-knit suits if it weren't for the women in their lives.

When she comes home tired / hungry / angry, you may be the nearest available target. Handle with care.

Encourage her to further her own spirituality.

Cherish her every day, CONSCIOUSLY.

Pick a church or temple or synagogue that the two of you can attend regularly, support financially, and grow with spiritually.

Teach a youth group together. You'll learn about kids before you have them.